12:29am
Hey Chels,
Ugh I feel like an idiot. I shouldn't have said anything. I dunno how much I can take of listening to all of this crap, but I'm gonna just have to deal with it myself. Every time you tell me something Ryan did to upset you, I do try to keep an open mind. But then you keep forgiving him and going back to liking him and it's really hard for me to watch you go through this. But I don't want to be like everyone else and tell you what to do, either. I don't want to go back to not talking to you because I would never do that to you but I feel like I can't watch you torture yourself, either. I just need a couple of days to clear my head. It's hard watching someone you love go through something bad for them and all you can do is just sit and watch and hope they make the right decision. There are a million other guys out there and the one who is right for you won't have a million problems to deal with and definitely will never make the excuse that he can't find a place for you in his life. But when you told me that excuse of what happened, I felt like screaming. I don't care if he doesn't remember it. It still shouldn't have happened. And I don't care how sorry he is, it's just not going to get better unless he gets help. You cannot start a solid relationship on drama and excuses, you just can't. I know you're worried about being a "boring" couple, but don't you agree that this is a bit much? Even you have to admit that this isn't working. You are miserable way more than you are happy with this guy and you guys should still be in the honeymoon phase. These kinds of problems should not be happening. Okay. I am going to keep my mouth shut on this for as long as I can. If he hurts you or you are unhappy with him 3 more times, I am going to have to say something. Because you don't deserve this crap and you deserve someone who is available at least.
Cons:
Has already told you he doesn't know how to fit you into his life
Has a huge drug and alcohol dependency
Is impotent
Uses past as an excuse for his bad behavior
It's impossible to know where you stand with this guy because he doesn't know what he wants
Still hung up on his ex when he met you
He has already blown you off a few times and has been MIA more than once.
He couldn't go one whole day of hanging out with you sober.
Pros:
I'm hoping you can help me out with this column?
You can tell me if I'm wrong on any of this but this is just from what I've observed and what you've told me. I want to be supportive of whoever you decide to be with but I'm never going to be supportive of someone who treats you like this and I know that if the situation was reversed you would be feeling the same way as me right now. You wouldn't want me to be with someone who basically keeps me at arm's length and says repeatedly all he's gonna do is hurt me. Well duh, with that attitude and you have already been hurt by him constantly pushing you away and then coming back. You deserve so much more than this! Ugh.
Well, I am gonna go for now. I have to wake up at a decent hour because my uncle will be here around 1pm and I need to be ready to help paint.
Love you,
Rita
1:11am
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